Reply With QuoteI have no words that could possibly do this horrible situation any justice.
My thoughts go out to your son, his partner, you and your family.
Something of a selfish but cathartic outpouring...
I've written several posts on the devastating affects of my son's drug addiction a year or two ago "my son and his drug taking" ~ Sept' 19
He since met a lovely girl who understood his issues and whether by accident or design became pregnant. We pointed out that if he wanted a family his addiction needed to be sorted. It was a rocky path he trod and the inevitable lapses happened, but real effort could be seen.
In June this year, they were gifted a beautiful baby girl, Courtney.
3 or 4 times a week, wife and I had the joy of looking after her while son and his partner went to gym.
The baby wanted for nothing, her mother was fabulous and absolutely doted on her. Son was what I'd call a rough diamond dad but he was getting there.
Fast forward to Saturday past and we did our babysitting and the baby was returned to her Mum and Dad fit and healthy with no signs of what was to unfold.
Sunday morning we get a call to say the baby wasn't well and had to be taken to hospital 20 miles away, high temp and pulse rate and the occasional high pitched scream.
Immediately put on intravenous antibiotics and the staff used a working diagnosis of meningitis.
Her condition rapidly worsened and she was ambulanced to the Children's Hospital in Glasgow for intensive care.
Sunday evening we we're told there was little the hospital could do and I think they were priming them for the worst.
Monday morning, she's still alive with support, but her legs would need to be amputated; sepsis, which was rapidly spreading to her lower torso.
There was understandable doubt the she would survive this. Her organs were failing and a brain scan confirmed massive damage.
The decision was taken to withdraw support and let her pass...all over Monday evening.
Hospital was fabulous with them, hotels food and taxis and offered and opportunity for them to return next day to hold and say there goodbyes. Indeed they did the same for them Wednesday before booking them a train to return to us.
Wonderful and caring sensitivity shown by the hospital to a Mum and Dad in circumstances that would be hard to imagine being any worse.
The speed and devastation with which this infection stole an innocent life is truly beyond my comprehension despite what I know was the absolute best of medical care being given...so, so cruel.
Tears are rolling down my face and I hope it's not improper to post a picture of that little bundle of joy. She has left a hole in so many hearts in our family.
Has heaven gained an angel? I need to think so as I can't rationalise it any other way.
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Last edited by jacinabox; 4th September 2021 at 16:55.
I have no words that could possibly do this horrible situation any justice.
My thoughts go out to your son, his partner, you and your family.
My heartfelt, deepest sympathies to you and your family.
I can’t even imagine what you and your family are going through. So so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are genuinely with you all.
My deepest sympathies to all of you and as you say let’s believe there’s an amazing ittle angel in heaven.
Unimaginable pain. My heart goes out to you all.
So terribly sad. Thinking of your son and his partner.
There are just no words.
I’m so sorry, my sincere condolences to you all.
I am so very sorry
Just terrible, my deepest condolences to you all.
So sad to read this!! Such a horrible thing to happen!!
Thoughts with all of your family at this sad time. Please get your son and his partner to use the support groups available for this sort of thing. They will need all the love and support they can get!
Im so sorry to hear this, my thoughts and condolences are with you and your family.
That’s too awful to even start comprehend…. I am so so sorry
Deepest sympathies, thoughts with you and your family.
That’s just too much for words, hope you can all get through this unbelievably tough time. Heartfelt sympathies to everyone affected.
I don't know what to say. I am so very sorry for the loss. This has to be the most upsetting thing I have read in a while. I was not expecting to be tearing up at my desk today.
Nothing I can say will help heal you and your family, but I do know that being open with your feelings and what you've experienced (even on a forum like this) will in some small way help with the healing process.
I am devastated to read your post. May god guide you and your family in this most tragic of times. My heart goes out to you all. So so sorry for your loss.
There are just no words. Bless little Courtney, I wish you all well in supporting each other to get through this.
Truly horrendous....condolences to all the family.
Neil
Condolences to you and your family.
As somebody lucky enough to be a father, I can’t imagine life after experiencing something like this. It’s obvious from your heart wrenching post the joy that such a dazzling little girl brought into your many lives over far too short a period… :-(
Truly horrible how life is sometimes.
This makes our normal daily worries seem so silly. My deepest condolences to you and your family, so shocking and sad.
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This is very sad. My deepest condolences to you all. RIP little angel.
That was hard enough for me to read, so I cannot even begin to imagine what you and your family must be going through right now.
There are no words I can say which will soften the blow. My deepest sympathies and best wishes to your family. I am so very sorry for your loss.
Very very heartfelt sympathies, we lost a 13 month old daughter over 40 years ago and to this day my wife hasent still got over it fully, time helps but it takes a lot of time, really really sorry for all of you, life can be a *$%"* at times :(
That is truly awful. I’m so sorry for all concerned.
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Heartfelt condolences, I can't begin to imagine what you all must be going through. Very very sad.
Cheers..
Jase
Absolutely devastating news buddy - there are no words.
Hang in there buddy - your family is going to need you in this tough time.
So sorry for your loss.
Terrible news, every parent / families worst nightmare. Heartfelt condolences.
My Friend I am utterly lost for words at the magnitude of the awful sadness and loss You're going through My sincerest condolences.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
My thoughts are with you and your family
Awful. My heart goes out to you all.
Terrible news, my thoughts and condolences are with your son and his partner and all the family. Support each other during this difficult time in your lives.
I am so sorry for your devastating loss truly awful she looked like a beautiful little girl.
I haven't the words, and there's little to add to the condolences above, but my heart goes out to you all at this dreadful time.
So clever my foot fell off.
How very sad indeed…puts life in perspective and makes the trivial stuff we all worry about irrelevant ….stay strong for your son and his partner…
R.I.P….little one..
Jesus Christ I’m so so very sorry to read this. Lump in my throat and tearing up as I type this.
My thoughts go out to you all.
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Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I am so very sorry for your family’s loss.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
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I'm so sorry to ready this. I can't even imagine what that feels like. Take care and best wishes to your family. May the memories you have of spending time with your grand daughter remain a blessing.
Truly sorry and devastated for you and your family. I cannot imagine your pain.
I don’t know what to say. How horrible for you and family. Thinking of you at this incredibly difficult time.
I can only echo what has already been written.
F.T.F.A.
Unbelievably sad. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Life is so cruel...RIP little one...fly high with the angels
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I'm so sorry. That's just the cruelest thing in the world to happen. Be strong for your son and his partner, they must be at absolute rock bottom. Life just isn't fair.
I am sorry you must go through this. There are no words which can make this better. I hope you can support each other and your son remains strong after the challenges he has already faced.
All I can offer is sympathy. Words don't really help, but the further you get from it, the easier it will be to bear. We lost a little boy at 4 weeks old nearly 12 years ago now. It's never not painful, but it's an easier thing to bear now than it was.
Dave E
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