I have three daughters. The oldest has just got engaged (great news!) and thoughts are turning to the wedding day. In the olden days, the bride's father would have paid for the wedding. I understand in these modern times that things are different (also good news). Obviously, I'd like to treat all my other two daughters equally should the time come, and I was wondering what others' experience of this has been. Are costs shared between the couple and both their families? I know that if you mention the word 'wedding' when booking things, costs escalate dramatically. I'm not wanting to be a party-pooper, but also I don't want them saddled with huge debts for one day's celebration either. Interested in your thoughts on how costs are shared or not nowadays.