I'm not an expert on how the "automatic" movement works, but which is the "best" way to wind an automatic watch

I'm thinking more of when I put the watch on in the morning, or keeping a watch wound that you may not be wearing for a few days

shake/move it side to side OR use the winder

obviously on your wrist it winds automatically, but does using the winder every day or so cause less wear on the watch parts than the "shake" method