The Universe is about 13,500,000,000 years old. Our solar system is about 4,500,000,000 years old.
Life on earth started about 3,500,000,000 years ago. The first modern human started to inhabit the earth about 100,000 years ago and we put a man on the moon 60 years ago.
Given the size of the universe, the number of galaxies, the number of planets, etc, it’s crazy to think a) we are not alone, b) that something hasn’t evolved faster and gained better technology than us. Finally it’s also crazy to assume that we actually understand all the laws of physics given we don’t really understand gravity or dark matter, etc.
In fact it’s not just crazy it’s also incredibly arrogant. As for the speed of their visits, they are probably thinking - “nothing much to see here - yet”.
In regards to using pulsed lasers as a method of propulsion, why do people assume the lasers need to be located inside the earth’s atmosphere. There is a massive ball of gas at the centre of the solar system emitting huge amounts of Engery which could be used to power lasers using current technologies.