Reply With QuoteSorry to hear of your loss
He sounds like a good guy who new his own mind,I'm sure you'll hold on to his memory
Focus on the good times.
Goat
I've written about his life in a previous post a year or two ago. A German soldier, called up in '42, captured by the Americans and spent the rest of the war picking cotton. He was brought here by a force-labour arrangement and began more farmwork. Later he was offered the chance to return home but by then he'd met my mum and that was it. He lived a full, honest and determined life, the last few years through bloody-minded stubbornness. In November he was helping me in my garden from the back of his mobility scooter. Then it all went even more wrong.
He's been in a nursing home since being discharged from hospital in February with a gangrenous leg wound and a 'do not resuscitate' notice he demanded. A few days after he set that in stone his mind went because of the toxins from the wound (caused by bad carers and district nurses who panicked and didn't get him the treatment he needed). He was offered a complete amputation of his leg. At 92. He refused and that was it, one of his last conscious decisions.
The first nursing home was supposedly good but proved poor as they allowed several atrocious pressure sores to develop. It closed and he was moved to the next which was much better. By then he was not able to carry on any conversation.
I went for a visit this afternoon, saw his breathing was poor, told the nurse who called a doctor and ambulance. They came in a timely manner but not long after my sister arrived he passed away as we watched.
Now I've no idea what to do because he's always been there.
Sorry to hear of your loss
He sounds like a good guy who new his own mind,I'm sure you'll hold on to his memory
Focus on the good times.
Goat
Sorry to hear that, he sounds like quite a character, you must be very proud of him.
I lost my Mum a few months ago. It's hard, but after a while you focus on remembering the good times and it gets a bit easier.
Good luck and best wishes.
Sorry for your loss chap, 92 is a great innings, if we should all go so long and have half the stories he left for you tell we'd do alright.
I don't imbibe these days, but I'll raise a metaphorical glass to him to wish him on his way.
Johnny.
He was clearly very loved by his family. My condolences to you all. I find that it helps to focus on the long and good life that he lived.
Chris
I am so sorry to read this.
I lost both my parents in a car crash when I was 14.
You just don't know what to do or where to turn.
Everyone tries to comfort you and take over.
It's just a question of time to reflect on the best times and hope he takes up less time in your sad thoughts.
May he rest in peace.
Brendan.
Condolences and best wishes.
When you look long into an abyss, the abyss looks long into you.........
So sorry for your loss.
Keep strong
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You have my condolences, he sounds like a great chap and he had a good long innings. Chin up and onwards, with all of your memories.
F.T.F.A.
Very sorry to hear this. It sounds as though you had some quality time with him despite the trials he went through recently.
Wishing you strength at a difficult time.
Very very sorry for your loss. Little comfort to you and your family but take some comfort in the knowledge that you were there for him at the end. He had a long life which could have been dramatically cut short during WW2.
I lost my Uncle the Christmas before last. He was the middle brother of three. Now there is just my Dad left. Very sobering thought.
Thoughts are with you and yours at this very sad time.
No words will help, especially from strangers on the net but I shall add my sincere condolences and will raise a glass in honour of your father.
'Against stupidity, the gods themselves struggle in vain' - Schiller.
Sorry for your loss - you have my sincere condolences.
Sounds like he was quite a character and you have some wonder memories. All the best.
Sorry to hear this - please accept my condolences.
He lived an amazing life and was clearly much loved.
My condolences.
I lost my dad last November so I can relate.
It does get easier as the time goes by but now it's good to talk to loved ones and tell stories of your dad. That way you'll focus on the good memories.
The batton has been passed, you're now that figure to the rest of your family.Originally Posted by Glamdring
Very sorry to learn of your loss. Your dad sounds like quite the guy! Lost my 93 year- old mom three years ago...it was a blessing when it happened. My condolences to you.
My condolences on your sad loss - you will miss him.
Sorry to hear of you loss. Think of a lovely memory of your dad each day and smile.
Sorry to hear of your loss. Hope the next few days and weeks aren't too tough.
My mother passed away six months ago in much the same way. For what it is worth, it has helped me to notice how much she is still here, not just in memories, but in how I, my children and siblings, act; in attitudes and ways of doing things. She did a good job with us and that leaves a lot of her still here. From the way you speak of him, the same is true of your father, so it might help to think about how much of him is still to be found in all the people and things he shaped.
Very Sorry for your loss, The void left will fill slowly with your memories of him.
Thank you for the thoughts, guys. Appreciated.
Sincere condolences sir. My parents are getting quite old now and I also can't imagine how I'd get on without them. I'm sure it would be an empty feeling.
Wish u all the best.
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Sorry for your loss. In time you will appreciate that you were there. I got a call from the hospital when my Dad was dying two years ago and by the time we got there he had gone. I wish I could have been there at the time, I was due to attend visiting a few hours later.
As others have said, a great innings.
In time, the humour kicks in, I recently had to get BT to disconnect my Mum's land line as she is as deaf as a post and does everything by text these days. The guy at BT wanted to talk to her, good luck with that I said. Eventually we got the job done. She has a picture of my Dad sitting with a pint and smug look on his face and we joked that it was all his fault and that he was laughing at us.
Sorry to hear of your loss.The memories will help you through.
Sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my father at 22, treasure the memories as it really does help you through.
From someone who has also lost their father I promise you that you'll find a way.
My sincere condolences.
Very sorry to hear this, my condolences. I promise it gets a little better every day.
My sincere condolences .
Thoughts are with you.
I am sorry for your loss.
Hold onto the memories, and celebrate his life.
My condolences, your father sounds like he was an excellent person, be proud, focus on the good times.
Sorry for your loss, just try and remember all the good times you had together.
Sorrry for your loss, my dad passed away in 99, I remember walking out and just looking at the night sky and wondering what now. Think about the good times and cherish those memories. He sounds like a very strong individual and my thoughts are with you and your family.
sad news, sorry for your loss. we both lost our mums in the last couple of years and the hole in our lives is still there. thoughts with you.
ktmog6uk
marchingontogether!
I'm sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear about your loss. Your father sounds like a man who led a full life and went on his terms.
My grandfather was a very proud and independent man who had a gangrenous leg that had to be amputated. He did not survive for long after the amputation, but in that short time, he struggled to cope with having to be in a wheelchair and being reliant on others.
Sorry to hear this…. He sounds like he knew his own mind, so, be comforted by that fact
All the besr to you and yours…
92 years are to be both mourned and celebrated in equal measure
Ben
I am sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences.
Menno
My best wishes to you and your family at this difficult time, and to your father for the next stage of his journey.
Very sad to hear of your loss. Condolences to all the family.
So sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear this, it must be very difficult as, at that age, he's always been there. Console yourself in the fact that he's had a good, long life and remember the good times.
RIP.
Very sorry to hear your sad news, I hoe you are doing ok.
Sorry for you loss, remember the good times
What a great innings and you were both able to be with him when he slipped away. Cherish the memories as they are what matter now.
Both of my parents are alive, but my dad is 91 and getting frailer as time goes on. Still strong in mind but his body simply isn't doing what he wants it to do.
I'm waiting for the phone call, as my folks live some distance away but I'll be there like a shot. My feeling is that one day he won't wake up.
Condolences to you, and wishing you to be strong. He sounds like he was a free thinker and a determined character and now his suffering is over, so hopefully you can fill the missing piece of your life with happy memories.
Sincere condolences. I lost my dad almost a year ago, he was only 46.
It will get easier and I'm sure you will go through a real mix of emotions over the next couple of months.
Keep strong.
S
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