Post Divorce - custody of children
Over the last 18 months my children (12 and 14) have stopped seeing me. I 'have' custodial rights (not legal) and as far as the ex-wife is concerned the children can see me but they are choosing not to.
My son has blocked me on his phone and while I seem to be able to text my daughter, I have no idea if she reads or sees them.
I am up to date on maintenance payments etc.
Advice has been mixed and I know of no-one who has been successful. I have joined the Families need fathers charity and their view is that I will not achieve much by pursuing a legal remedy.
I have tried standing outside the school gates to see them, but they simply ignore me and I don't want to embarrass them, so wait for them to contact me. They get letters, presents etc with no response back from them at all.
Has anyone been in a similar position and then managed to get some custody of their children?
thanks
Post Divorce - custody of children
It’s a rubbish thing to go through as I can testify. When I read your initial post the first thing that springs to mind was ‘were you responsible for the divorce or was it you who left your wife?
If it’s any of them then I’d be thinking the ex is telling the kids ‘your father has up and left us all and wants nothing to do with us’.
All you can do is let them know you will be there for them at any time and don’t argue with the ex or call her names and don’t force the kids into anything they are not comfortable with.
I hate it when I hear about divorces and either parent not being allowed to see their kids or the ex stirring against another parent.
Keep smiling and hope it works out for you.
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Post Divorce - custody of children
Is there someone that can mediate informally for you that is closer to the situation on your ex wife’s side? Perhaps a grandparent that cares for what’s best for the kids? My (ex) mother-in-law has helped greatly over the years to keep things on an even keel. The legal route is not a solution imho.
Post Divorce - custody of children
Your situation could so easily have been mine Tony; I split with my ex in about 2001 when my daughter was six (she’s 26 and happily married now) but have always managed to maintain a relationship with her.
Her mother was very difficult for a time and did make it difficult at times but never stopped me from seeing her or discouraged her from seeing me.
I consider myself very fortunate when hearing if the problems others have had or are having.