Manners maketh a man.....

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18th February 2022, 09:19
Topcat30093

Manners maketh a man.....

Sorry, but a bit of a rant!
I was bought up that:

“Good manners cost nothing.
Bad manners can cost you your reputation”

Meaning:Today this expression broadly means that your mannerisms and characteristics make you who you are, that is to say people are judged by their manners and conduct.

So why do some people (members) find it acceptable too NOT bother replying to your PM's?
Recently sent a couple to different members and got no reply, even though they have clearly visited the forum.
Is it me, am I expecting too much?

Rant over :-)
18th February 2022, 09:40
Onelasttime

They could be busy? I know what you mean though, it grinds my gears when someone doesn’t send a quick message to say everything is ok.

I’ll always try to respond within 24 hours but sometimes life/kids/work/cat get in the way and it can slip the mind.

Add them to a list of who not to deal with. There’s good and bad on TZ, just like in real life :smile-new:
18th February 2022, 09:41
Kingstepper

Never heard that expression, is it real or a typo?
18th February 2022, 09:44
Hocuspocus

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kingstepper

Never heard that expression, is it real or a typo?

Not sure, but the expression is "Manners maketh Man".

Sent from my SM-A202F using TZ-UK mobile app
18th February 2022, 09:45
Kingstepper

Quite!
18th February 2022, 09:49
levkov

Two of my private messages disappeared over the past few months, they were in the sent folder, but gone days later, so could be that, perhaps?
Try Facebook marketplace, you'll pull your hair out..
18th February 2022, 10:06
blackal

Depending on what your settings are - it is possible to miss that the 'message' tag at the top - is highlighted.

I've certainly missed it on occasion.
18th February 2022, 10:10
Gavbaz

If the members in question use tapatalk, it has been a nightmare of late. Would be very easy to miss.
18th February 2022, 10:13
AdmiralNilsson

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gavbaz

If the members in question use tapatalk, it has been a nightmare of late. Would be very easy to miss.

Bit of a detour, but Tapatalk does seem unreasonably slow and glitchy lately. I think I’ve tried everything and it doesn’t help much. Do you know of a good alternative?
18th February 2022, 10:20
andy tims

maketh, not taketh, but I agree it is a bit rude not to reply if they've had time to visit the forum.

I get an email when I have a new PM.
18th February 2022, 10:22
Gavbaz

Quote:

Originally Posted by AdmiralNilsson

Bit of a detour, but Tapatalk does seem unreasonably slow and glitchy lately. I think I’ve tried everything and it doesn’t help much. Do you know of a good alternative?

Not aware of any alternatives. Obviously the browser but if you are using your phone it’s rubbish.
Bizarrely Tapatalk does run slightly better when using a VPN, still glitchy though.
18th February 2022, 10:26
Jon Kenney

It’s not just PMs. Members asking for advice and you go out of your way to help… and then diddly squat.
18th February 2022, 10:28
JasonM

Quote:

Originally Posted by levkov

Two of my private messages disappeared over the past few months, they were in the sent folder, but gone days later, so could be that, perhaps?
Try Facebook marketplace, you'll pull your hair out..

This.
18th February 2022, 10:32
Gavbaz

Manners taketh a man.....

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jon Kenney

It’s not just PMs. Members asking for advice and you go out of your way to help… and then diddly squat.

Again (not the only reason I am sure) but if using Tapatalk, notifications are hit and miss. Unless you go back through every thread then I can see how some people would miss others quoting etc.

Not an excuse for all but I imagine a lot of TZers do not ever go onto a desktop and use there mobiles. So if using Tapatalk your stuffed really.
18th February 2022, 11:07
Topcat30093

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kingstepper

Never heard that expression, is it real or a typo?

Sorry, it was predictive text, who decided that I had spelt the word wrong!
Now corrected :-)
18th February 2022, 11:15
Topcat30093

Quote:

Originally Posted by andy tims

maketh, not taketh, but I agree it is a bit rude not to reply if they've had time to visit the forum.

I get an email when I have a new PM.

Same for me.

Quote:

Originally Posted by JasonM

This.

Not had much experience with Facebook, don't trust it, instead tend to use our own fantastic FS Forum.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Onelasttime

They could be busy? I know what you mean though, it grinds my gears when someone doesn’t send a quick message to say everything is ok.

I’ll always try to respond within 24 hours but sometimes life/kids/work/cat get in the way and it can slip the mind.

Add them to a list of who not to deal with. There’s good and bad on TZ, just like in real life :smile-new:

That is a practice that I tend to follow.
I am fairly certain that they would have received the PM's as I had been in contact previously.
This happened 3-4 weeks ago.

Oh well it was their lost.
Instead I just wanted to have a rant about good manners and the lack of them by some!
18th February 2022, 11:48
pugster

depends what the pm is about, tbh in the past ive had lowball offers on sales that were taking the proverbial enough that i could not be arsed to reply back with a friendly answer so i did not bother.
18th February 2022, 12:53
AdmiralNilsson

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gavbaz

Not aware of any alternatives. Obviously the browser but if you are using your phone it’s rubbish.
Bizarrely Tapatalk does run slightly better when using a VPN, still glitchy though.

It might be the only software helped by a vpn then, bizarre indeed. I haven’t been able to find alternatives either.
18th February 2022, 13:12
andy tims

Quote:

Originally Posted by levkov

Try Facebook marketplace, you'll pull your hair out..

FB market place is full of low balling chancers & people who say they'll take the item & then just don't show up.

That said, but I do use it occasionally to sell stuff.
18th February 2022, 19:41
TheFlyingBanana

I’ve given up on FB marketplace now. I tried to get rid of a Dyson air multiplier full size floor standing fan on there a few weeks ago.

The endless attempts to scam and messing about led me to take the advert down after a week.

Never again.
18th February 2022, 19:43
Barton Red

Manners cost nothing, unless you’re emailing “thanks” or “merry Christmas” to the solicitor I used for my divorce.
18th February 2022, 19:48
Michael 38

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheFlyingBanana

I’ve given up on FB marketplace now. I tried to get rid of a Dyson air multiplier full size floor standing fan on there a few weeks ago.

The endless attempts to scam and messing about led me to take the advert down after a week.

Never again.

I sold a b+w zeppelin speaker the other week on fb without any problems but to be honest that was the exception rather than the norm from my experience
19th February 2022, 15:54
P9CLY

Quote:

Originally Posted by Onelasttime

They could be busy? I know what you mean though, it grinds my gears when someone doesn’t send a quick message to say everything is ok.

I’ll always try to respond within 24 hours but sometimes life/kids/work/cat get in the way and it can slip the mind.

Add them to a list of who not to deal with. There’s good and bad on TZ, just like in real life :smile-new:

I think the "life/kids/work etc" isnt really valid tbh,it took me less than a minute to post this.

Others can do the same....surely.

Almost forgot to reply to this because errr well just because ok.